Whether it’s game, a failed relationship, or a missed opportunity, there are few feelings worse than finding yourself on the short end of the stick.
But losing can also be awesome.
In fact, it can be so awesome, I think it’s something every child should learn to do at a young age. Lucky for me, my lackluster athletic ability and lukewarm pick-up lines have more than taken care of that need.
Christiansburg head football coach Tim Cromer has a great outlook when it comes to losses.
Cromer has often said and/or tweeted, “Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.”
Boom. That dude gets it.
You see, losing provides us with the opportunity to learn to how to rebound, to learn how to pick ourselves up off the mat, make adjustments, and continue fighting for what our hearts truly desire.
That’s what makes a good loser.
The Bible is full of good losers and one of my favorites is Jacob.
What Jacob really wanted at one point in his life was to marry to girl named Rachel. In fact, he worked seven years for the right to marry this girl, but Rachel’s dad Laban pulled the old daughter switcheroo and Jacob ended up marrying her less desirable sister Leah instead.
Laban 1, Jacob 0.
If losing sucks, there’s probably not an appropriate word for Jacob’s feelings about this setback.
I guess Jacob could have just taken the loss and retired from the game, but instead, he rebounded. Instead, Jacob worked another seven years to get the girl he really wanted and ended up marrying Rachel as well.
Granted, this did produce some family drama down the road, but my point is that Jacob took a loss and instead of folding, chose to grind it out until he got what he really wanted.
We’re all going to have loses in life. We’re all going to face times of disappointment and missed opportunities.
They’re going to suck, but in the grand scheme of things, they aren’t really that important.
What is important, however, is what we do next.
What is important is how we rebound.
Of course, that’s completely up to us. No one, not even God, will ever force us to keep grinding for what we want. So, if we choose to stay down, that’s on us.
Just keep in mind though, that God has loaded each of us up with ability to learn from our mistakes and with enough gifts, talents, and resources to keep grinding.
It won’t always be easy, heck it might even take 14 years of labor, but eventually that labor will payoff.
Losing is often unavoidable, but remaining a loser is always a choice.